The article discusses some studies that support the observation that a large number of women do not want to work for or with other women. For example, a recent Gallup study showed that not only do both genders prefer a male boss but also that “more women have this preference than men (39 percent to 26 percent).” The article acknowledges that it is bringing a topic to the forefront that people are often afraid to bring up because they do not want to be labeled as “women-haters” or anti-feminist. Despite a hesitation to bring it up, the author was provided with numerous examples from former students and colleagues from regions nationwide when they were asked about experiences with female bosses and colleagues in the workforce. The article explains that the mentoring the females expected from other females was often lacking and suggests that this might lead to the vicious cycle of women not wanting to work with other women.
STORIES OF BAD FEMALE BOSSES
Many female former students and younger colleagues from across the country tell me horror stories of their experiences with women bosses upon entering the workforce. Instead of the mentoring they anticipate, they receive passive aggressive put-downs and condescending remarks. As a result, these feminist-leaning young women regretfully admit that they now prefer to work for a man because their male superiors don’t treat them that way and are more likely to promote them. My experience with a ‘bad’ female manager was extensive. I was the only other female on the team, and she took her anxiety/frustration out on me. I think she felt competitive with me. I always did my work well, especially since I wanted to prove to her I could handle bigger responsibilities. I had so many ideas for the company that I made a Google Doc she could access. One day while we were problem solving, she said to me: “I’ve never looked at that document, and frankly, I never will.” I was shocked. The manager I had before her loved my ideas so much that he pulled me into his office for a day-long brainstorming session!
A successful female entrepreneur once said to me, “Men may not like each other, but they’ll still promote each other. A woman will write off another woman because she doesn’t like her shoes.” An oversimplification, yes, but I get her point.
So this is where we find ourselves: abusing or avoiding each other. Do you think men stay on top by excluding other men? Quite the opposite. They go to men-only secret camps and play golf and video games and slap each other on the butt.