Do you know how it is, ladies? You know a boy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him to play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to their problems. But then, the fateful moment comes when you discover that all this time he has only seen you as a potential bride. And then, if you reject him, he may never speak to you again. The friend’s zone. The boys complain when a girl puts them in the Friends Zone. But most of these guys probably don’t realize what they are doing. They are putting you in the “Bride Zone”.
I am sure you have all been there. You start dating or talking to the boy, and you think you’ve finally found a boy you can be friends with. Then start hitting you. You don’t want a relationship, but he doesn’t understand it. If you stop responding, he asks if everything is fine and if you are angry with him.
You don’t want to risk losing your friendship with him, but you also don’t want to have a relationship with him. You probably won’t talk so much because you don’t want to guide him. As unfortunate as that is, that is what happens.
How do you avoid it? I should tell you from the first moment that you are not looking for a relationship. Just sit with him and talk about how you feel, and tell him you’re only interested in being a friend. If he knows it from the beginning, you should be able to avoid the “Bride Zone”. Most boys will understand and want you to be happy. If he keeps pushing the subject, or he can’t accept that you just want to be a friend, he clearly doesn’t care about your feelings as much as he should.
I have literally experienced not feeling particularly attracted to a girl while I meet her just to end up thinking she is the sexiest person on Earth because her personality changed my perception of her. You, ladies, lose a friend because they won’t give you a chance, but the boys lose a friend and break your heart. Yes, it’s true, most boys don’t stay after rejection. A boy’s feelings don’t disappear just because the girl said no, and frankly, dating the girl who rejected him is not healthy. The boy will not be able to keep going if he is close to her all the time (but the girl will surely do it), and the girl will enjoy without malice but without mercy all the benefits of having a “friend” who will do anything for her.
I still think that meeting someone through friendship is a better way to find love than to go to a bar or a reading club or go online, except for the fact that women won’t let it be. The author of the original article said that men are biologically connected to ruin friendships in this way, returning to our hunter days. Well, I would suggest that science begin to investigate what undiagnosed condition women have that allows them to be so completely compatible with a man, but not “see them [that way].”