Interpersonal competence is one of the keys to personal and professional success that I discuss in Straight Talk For Success. If you want to become interpersonally competent, you need to do three things.
1) Get to know yourself. Use this self knowledge to better understand others.
2) Build long term, supportive and mutually beneficial relationships with the people in your life.
3) Resolve conflict positively. Use conflict as an opportunity to strengthen, not weaken your relationships.
“The key to any business success is making someone else successful, so always look for ways you can help other people succeed.”
These words embody the ideas behind interpersonal competence. When you help others, you help yourself. The more you can help other people succeed, the more they will want to help you succeed. This is a win/win situation, and something that interpersonally competent people do well and regularly.
We can share a few of your favorite ways to help, support, and inspire others with us?
1. Create a sisterhood circle. Whether it’s three women or 30, start an online group or a monthly meet-up in your neighborhood. Invite women who are looking for support in any area of their life, and go out for coffee, drinks, or dinner every few weeks and check in on each other’s goals.
2. Perform a random act of kindness. Little things go a long way and create a chain reaction of positive energy. Send flowers to a friend who could use a pick-me-up. Pay for someone’s coffee in line behind you. Smile at a stranger.
3. Remove yourself from toxic conversations. If you find yourself in a conversation that tears another woman down, leave it. Lead by example, and choose to focus on conversations that inspire and energize you, as well as the people around you.
4. Volunteer as a mentor. Call a local high school or college and ask if they’re looking for mentors. Volunteer a few hours a month to help a younger woman who could use a little guidance and love.
“Girl power” is a popular term these days, and you’ve probably caught hashtags or mantras like #WomenSupportingWomen, #WomenEmpoweringWomen, and #CommunityOverCompetition online. I like these terms, but we need to make sure they become *more* than hashtags — this shouldn’t be a trend. To do this effectively, we all should be sure we’re actually showing up and serving others, because that’s what it’s really all about. To communicate this idea, I created a mantra for myself and for my readers: “In a world full of ‘look at me’ girls, be a ‘come with me’ girl.” I can promise that when you focus your energy on supporting the women around you, you’ll also find a renewed sense of purpose when it comes to your goals too.