“On the surface, there’s a change happening. Women are recognizing the power of putting all of our voices together, But I’m also seeing people getting behind that message who don’t live it.”
There is nothing more beautiful than a woman giving another woman a compliment. And yes, it is happening more and more. I am sure you have seen the posts online about the beauty of two drunk girls complimenting each other in the bathroom at a party. But why is that a drunk girl moment? Why isn’t it an all the time moment? Whether online or in person, there is still so much negativity often outweighing the positives, and it is especially potent when it comes to our looks.
As a feminist you cannot pick and choose which women you support. You can choose to live your life however you please, but you are to give that same freedom and respect to all other women. That includes women who choose to wear bras or not to, who love makeup or don’t, who dress conservatively or not. Yet, it seems that so many women are unaware of this. By taking one look at the comments section of a woman’s Instagram post you will often find crude comments from men, but even more critical and body shaming comments from fellow women. Which to me is almost worse. How can we expect men to treat us with respect and look past our bodies to view us as actual equals if we can’t even do that for each other?
It is time to spread positivity, lifting each other up, supporting one another. We do not all have to agree on the “right” way to be. To some, that is removing all body hair, to others it is going au naturale, and no matter what beauty is to you, it does not give you the right to judge someone for what they are doing. Maybe you are saving yourself until marriage, that’s great. But it doesn’t mean you should attack those who aren’t. Maybe you are putting your career first and don’t want kids, good for you. But you shouldn’t attack a stay at home mom. Maybe you have sworn off makeup, that doesn’t mean it is okay to hate on someone wearing false lashes.
As women, we forget that our personal opinions are not the only ones that are right. It is our responsibility as women to stop being so critical of one another and start being the kind of feminists that have each other’s backs through thick and thin, regardless of our differences