It is undeniable that breakups are difficult, but breakups are particularly painful and more difficult to overcome. BFF breaks are notoriously brutal. Crossing it is no small task, but it can be done. In the end, things can get so much better that you will be strangely grateful for the breakup.
Here are the ways to get over losing a best friend:
- Don’t try to force closure.
- Give yourself a lot of hope.
- Don’t rush yourself to fill the place you had for them.
- Don’t make things awkward when dealing with mutual friends.
Don’t try to force closure.
Closure seems to be an emotionally healthy thing to look for – but it has to come naturally and when you are both calm. If you are in the middle of a dramatic breakup with your best friend, it can be difficult to explain how the two of you are feeling without making the situation worse. “If the relationship had become dysfunctional, then the same factors that ended this situation will likely prevent a healthy and mature” closure “process.” Perhaps one day, with time and distance, you will be able to better understand what went wrong. Maybe not. But in the meantime, you still have to move on.
Give yourself a lot of hope.
Since breakups with friends can hurt as much (if not more) than breakups, some of the antidotes – like keeping Hella busy – are the same. Focus on the changes that really improve your life in the long run.
Don’t rush yourself to fill the place you had for them.
If the friend you lost was the person was also the one you dated, it can be overwhelming to fill the place they owned. Stronger bonds must occur organically. Meanwhile, casting a net and opening up to new people is never a bad thing. You will make friends who like the things you do the same or you will do something you really like on a Saturday night.
Don’t make things awkward when dealing with mutual friends.
If you are spending time with some of the same people or you could see yourself at a party, you have the additional problem of “WTF should I tell everyone who still thinks we are best friends ???”
You are enough and the right people will appreciate you. You just have to go through grief first. But it disappears and things get better. You are stronger than you think, and things will get better. Love yourself, put yourself first and the right people will come (and stay).