Detaching yourself from toxic family members can be a painful decision; it’s often healthier in the long run than continuing to interact with abusive, addicted, or otherwise difficult-to-deal people. If you think you may need to break ties with your loved ones, start by assessing your family relationships and think carefully about the best way to proceed. After that, take steps to distance yourself from dysfunctional family members. Also, be sure to take care of your mental and emotional health throughout this process.
End it and don’t let him talk you into to stay
Decide that it’s time to quit smoking and don’t back down on your promise. Once you’ve made that decision, stick with it and find the best way to reverse it. Do not take it off guard; Instead, plan to meet (preferably in a cafe or somewhere with people around) and tell them in advance that there is something serious to discuss. Don’t let its charms persuade you to stay. Present your case and respect what you said. Don’t let it downplay your problems and your dissatisfaction; tell him you can’t stay with him anymore. Give it time to process it and don’t rush things. When there is nothing more to say, stand up and leave wishing him good luck.
Don’t prolong the process
When you have decided to do it, do not continue to apologize and postpone it. You are doing yourself a disservice. Take a clean break. The sooner you can sit and talk, the better. If you stay with him longer than you want, you will not want him anymore. Do it for yourself but also for him. He also deserves to know that his relationship is over.
Find support in your family and friends
There’s nothing like a solid support system when you go through something like this. Let them know what’s going on and call them whenever you feel unhappy or unhappy. Let them keep your spirits up as you go through this breakup and don’t hesitate to get away. It is important to create a safety net for yourself, because you know that you may need it. They can cheer you up when you’re feeling down and keep you company when loneliness comes in. With their support, it will be easier and less painful.
Ask yourself if you can find ways to deal with dysfunctional family dramas without cutting loved ones out of your life. Consider skipping certain family reunions, resisting bullies or ignoring conflicts instead of arguing with loved ones. Finding a simple solution is not always possible. However, defusing negative situations is often less stressful than cutting ties completely.
Look at ALANON, which is a group that started out as a way to help and support family members of people with addictions. However, this organization has grown to help people in all kinds of situations.
You don’t have to be his savior
The last thing you need is to save it from itself. It is no longer your job. You can wish him luck and hope he gets better, but you certainly shouldn’t be playing a part in it. He needs to understand his shit himself. Until he realizes he can be better for himself and his potential partner, you shouldn’t feel the need to help him understand it. He’s a mature adult and he has to learn to act like that. It is his responsibility and that of no one else.
Do something productive in your free time
Now that you’re out of that dysfunctional relationship, you’ll find you’ve got so much free time on your hands! Or you can spend more time with your nearest and dearest. It’s all up to you.
For as long as you’re still feeling nostalgic and jaded, keep doing things that will distract you. With time, you’ll forget all about him and start feeling like a brand new person, and that’s the whole point!