Have you ever been the other woman? Or at least have you ever been in love with a man who was in love with someone else or who was kidnapped?
Yes? Then you will get me. Other people who haven’t been through it will never be able to sympathize with us, and there will always be critical looks.
It’s okay. At first it was so hard for me to go out and face people, but I learned to live with it. I still have those awkward judgmental looks, but the point is, I don’t care.
Was it a mistake? Did I hurt innocent people?
Yes, and unfortunately still yes. It was the biggest mistake of my life. But still, I am so grateful to God for this temptation because later on it turned out to be the most valuable lesson of my life.
I hurt others, but I hurt myself the most in all this.
I gathered the strength to forgive myself and finally move on by some of the most valuable life lessons that this experience taught me.
Mistakes are also a part of life
Yes, I made a mistake. So what? We are all human and we make them all. The important thing is what we learn from this mistake and if we repeat it.
I learned my lesson. I will never do it again because I know how painful it was, how many people it hurt and the consequences that remained with me.
Most importantly, I will never do it again because I know I’m so much better than this.
Should I let this mistake ruin my whole life? No, I shouldn’t, and I couldn’t accept that. I regret it, and I only know how much I suffered from it.
I sincerely repented to God, hoping that He would forgive me too, and I left it all behind. I moved on with my life while accepting it as a mistake.
I have to forgive myself for loving the wrong man
It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t know he had been kidnapped when we met. I sincerely fell in love with this man and only wanted to be loved the same way.
I blamed myself at first, but later realized I had to forgive myself to move on. To heal I had to forgive my heart for loving the wrong man, for loving someone who shattered him into a million pieces.
All men are not the same
Even after this terrible experience, I know that all men are not the same. To be honest, at first I didn’t even think of it that way.
I locked my heart and vowed to never allow anyone to find the key again. But now I realize that would be unfair.
I deserve a man who will love me honestly. My heart is unlocked again and waits for the right one.
I will never trust a man’s words again because it’s his actions that count
He’s the one who played with us both. At first, I didn’t even know there was another woman in his life. He wanted me to fall in love with him before I found out, and he managed to do it.
He knew it would be harder for me to leave him. It was just one of his sick games. Once I found out that I was the other woman, he swore he would leave her and that I was the only woman he loved.
He used my honest emotions to manipulate me. I made a mistake in believing his false promises, but I swore to myself that I would never believe a man’s words again if they are not backed up by his actions.
I will never allow other people’s opinions to bother me again
The people who knew everything that had happened only blamed me. From the rest of the world, I completely cut myself off.
I didn’t have the strength to go out and face all the judgmental looks that followed me everywhere I went.
It greatly affected my self-esteem. I felt like a complete failure. I went through so many dark thoughts and thought that I would never be happy again.
Fortunately, I got over it all. My biggest mistake was letting other people’s opinions of me control my life. This is something I will never allow again, of course.
I forgive the people who hurt me, but only to get the peace I deserve
I forgive all the other people who hurt me and him. I know they don’t deserve it, but I also know that I could never leave it all behind until I forgive them.
Forgiving them is my closure to everything. This is how I leave this story and this terrible experience of the past.
Karma is on my side
A lot of people have asked me if I plan to take revenge on him. No, I don’t want that. Believe me, this is the last thing I would do now.
I believe in karma, and I let it do its job. I’m sure it will do a better job. The last message I sent to this man was, “What happens is coming …” and I really believe it.
I deserve to be someone’s only choice
Even though it was one of the most difficult and painful experiences of my life, I won’t let it destroy my faith in true love.
I always believe there is a suitable man out there, and I still believe our paths will cross one day.
I know I deserve it. I deserve someone who will show me what true love is like. I don’t just deserve to be someone’s first choice, I deserve to be their one and only choice, and I won’t stop until I find a man like that.
I know he exists and I know he is waiting for me.