Confident people are admired by others and inspire confidence in others. They face their fears and tend to take risks. They know that whatever obstacles they encounter, they have the capacity to overcome them. Confident people tend to view their lives in a positive light even when things aren’t going so well, and they are generally self-satisfied and respect themselves.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to have that kind of self-confidence every day of the week? Guess what? You can.
“Low self-confidence is not a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered – just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” –Barrie Davenport
It comes down to a simple question: if you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect someone else to do it?
Try some of the tips below. Don’t just read them and put them on the back burner. Really start practicing them daily, starting today. You may have to fake it at first and just seem like you have confidence in yourself, but eventually you will start to feel the foundation of confidence growing in you. With a little time and practice (this is not an overnight phenomenon), you too can be a confident person, both inside and out, that others admire. and say “Yes! at.
1. Move away from negativity and bring positivity
Now is the time to really assess your surroundings, including your friends and family. It’s a tough question, but it’s time to seriously consider moving away from those people who demean you and ruin your confidence. Even a temporary break with Debbie Downer can make a huge difference and help you progress towards more self-confidence.
Be positive, even if you don’t quite feel it yet. Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others and go for it, excited to start your next project. Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead start focusing on solutions and making positive changes.
2. Change your body language and image
This is where posture, smiling, eye contact, and speaking slowly come into play. Just pulling your shoulders back makes others feel like you are a confident person. Smiling will not only make you feel better, it will make others more comfortable with you. Imagine a person with good posture and a smile and you imagine someone who is self-confident.
Look at the person you’re talking to, not your shoes – keeping eye contact shows confidence. Finally, speak slowly. Research has shown that those who take the time to speak slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more confident in the eyes of others. The added bonus is that they will actually be able to understand what you are saying.
Go the extra mile and style your hair, shave close and dress well. Not only will this make you feel better about yourself, others are more likely to perceive you as successful and confident. A good tip: When shopping for a new outfit, practice wearing it at home first to overcome any wardrobe malfunctions before you go.
3. Don’t accept failure and get rid of negative voices in your head
Never give up. Never accept failure. There is a solution to everything, so why would you want to throw in the towel? Make it your new mantra. Succeeding in the face of great adversity is a huge confidence boost.
Low self-confidence is often caused by the negative thoughts going through our minds on an endless track. If you constantly disparage yourself and say that you’re not good enough, not attractive enough, not smart enough, or athletic enough, and so on, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. You become what you preach in your head, and that’s not good. The next time you hear that negativity in your head, immediately switch to a positive affirmation and hold it until it reaches the caliber of a boost in self-confidence.
4. Be prepared
Learn everything there is to know about your field, your job, your presentation – whichever is next on your “to conquer” list. If you are ready and have the knowledge to back it up, your self-confidence will increase.
5. For hard times, when all else fails: create a good list
Life is full of challenges and there are times when it is difficult to maintain self-confidence. Sit down now and make a list of all the things in your life that you are grateful for, and another list of all the things that you are proud to accomplish. Once your lists are complete, post them on your refrigerator door, on the wall near your desk, on your bathroom mirror – a place where you can easily remember how amazing you have an amazing life and how amazing you are. If you feel that your self-confidence is diminishing, take a look at these lists and allow yourself to be felt and inspired by you again.