If there’s one thing that happens most often when flirting, it’s prolonged eye contact. Here’s just what it means and how you can master it yourself.
I think we all know that if someone is making eye contact with you, it’s for a reason. Sometimes it’s to get your attention, other times it means they find you attractive, and most often, it means they’re flirting. This is especially true if it’s prolonged eye contact. Growing up, we were always told that staring is rude. We learned not to look at someone for too long but as we got older, we couldn’t help it. In our teenage years, we spent a lot of our time staring at attractive people and then quickly averting our eyes so they couldn’t see. As adults, this has completely changed. These are some things a guy is trying to tell you by using prolonged eye contact:
He is flirting
Prolonged eye contact is one of the oldest and most common signs of flirting. Not to mention it’s probably the most effective way to flirt too. It sounds easy, but if a guy could get any girl he wanted, that would be really something. But prolonged eye contact demands a certain chemistry from both sides. Let’s say you are out at a bar and you see a guy looking at you, and you might be reluctant to look back at him. First, you will scan him and see if there is something in him that sparks your interest. If a guy just looks once that doesn’t have to mean anything, as he might have noticed that you were looking and he is now scanning and assessing you. If you look toward him a few more times after and your eyes meet, that’s a clear sign that he is trying to flirt with you. It’s like a cat and mouse game of who is going to look when. It even sounds silly but when you are experiencing it, it’s really thrilling and amusing. Think about it. He looks at you, you look at him, one of you looks back. And then you don’t look for a while at all. Then you start looking again. It’s fun.
He is falling in love
Men might have difficulty locking eyes for very long at the beginning of a romance. It’s not because they are not interested. It’s because the long stare is making them nervous. Locking eyes confuses them and they tend to forget everything they wanted to say. But if he, at any point, feels that he is comfortable around you, he will, without even thinking to, take a deep look into your eyes.
It will be the first sign that he is falling in love with you. By using prolonged eye contact, he is telling you that he knows where he stands with you now and he isn’t afraid.
When a man and a woman engage in prolonged eye contact, they usually have this incredible sexual tension that makes them stare. Just by looking into each other’s eyes they feel hurricanes of lust rising from within, making them crave each other like crazy. Eye contact tells you a lot. For instance, he might raise his eyebrows when he looks at you. At some level, men consider this to be a way they can get a better look at a woman. Prolonged eye contact is not the only factor here. You have to pay attention to his other body language signs. Most of his focus might be centered on your eyes. However, that might mean that he is focusing on your eyes to avoid being rude because he actually wants to focus on the shape of your body or your boobs.
His body language speaks a lot. If he is leaning toward you it means he wants closeness. If he is sitting opposite you with his legs spread wide, he is thinking of you in a sexual way. If he touches his face more often than you would consider normal, you are probably seeing his subconscious at work. Without even being conscious of it, he is trying to hide that your presence is making him nervous in a good way. Body language speaks more than words ever could.
He’s trying to get your attention
Sometimes Guys use prolonged eye contact with you only to get your attention. They do it when they are really into you because (obviously) they wouldn’t really bother doing it otherwise. If he approaches you and you notice him muttering or changing the pitch of his voice, he’s trying to get your attention like: “Hey, I’m here, and I really like you. Please notice me!” Also, if he doesn’t approach you but still prolongs eye contact from a distance or when passing by you, again he’s trying to get your attention because he’s not that confident to approach you. Let’s say that he’s trying to get your attention from a distance because he’s afraid of how you may react.
He’s giving you hints
This one is mostly linked with shy guys. Obviously, shy guys find it hard to approach you, and that is why they tend to choose the prolonged eye method instead. By doing that, they are giving you hints that they are interested in you, but they are not sure whether you’re interested in them as well. So, they are looking for some kind of reassurance that you’re willing to talk to them or that you like them, too.
This usually goes for people in relationships. Regardless of whether they have been together for a long or short period of time, prolonged eye contact signifies their deep affection and a mutual sense of belonging. Locking eyes also signifies that they are trust each other, that they feel comfortable with each other and that they have no problem in or fear of looking their partner in the eyes. And there is no better foundation on which to build a relationship than with trust. When you are in the middle of an argument, your partner shouldn’t have any problems locking eyes with you, especially if he is being honest and has nothing to hide. When it comes to long-term relationships, couples might even guess each other’s thoughts just by looking at each other. This happens when they know each other so well that they can guess what the other person will say next or is thinking at that exact moment. This often results in them finishing each other’s sentences from time to time.