“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.”
Dwelling on all the potential signs that a guy is not into you may seem like a bit of a downer. It’s definitely not the filter with which you want to view the person you’re crushing on. We all want to get swept up in the exciting feelings that accompany falling for someone. In that intoxicating rush of emotions, it can be supremely challenging to take a step back. Before you fall head over heels for that mysterious fella you’ve had your eye on, take a beat and study the situation. Despite the endless, sometimes conflicting, streams of advice regarding how to understand them, guys are not as hard to read as you might expect.
Here’s our list of some signs that he’s not interested in you. Apply them to you and your crush and see if they ring any bells.
He doesn’t spend time with you
If you feel that your man is getting all distant and that he doesn’t want to spend time with you like before, it is one of the first signs he doesn’t care about you. When we love someone, we want to spend most of our time with them, and there is a valid reason why your man doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that the two of you shouldn’t be allowed to have lives of your own outside your relationship or that this man has a duty to leave everything and everyone behind just because he’s your boyfriend. Nevertheless, if you see that spending time with you and being near you is boring to him and that he avoids it, you definitely have a problem, and it is one of the clear signs he doesn’t care about you.
He avoids all communication
One of the first and most plain signs he will never come back is the fact that your ex has stopped communicating with you since you two broke things off. Not only that, he even avoids any type of communication which you initiate. The last thing you want to be is boring, but the truth is that you’ve tried calling this man or sending him text messages a few times since you two split. You tried inviting him just to hang out, without telling him about your concrete intentions or you were even straightforward about your feelings.
No matter how mentally and emotionally strong this guy is and no matter how hard he is trying to fight his emotions, the fact is that sooner or later, he would have agreed to meet up with you if he really missed you the way you hope he does. Even if this is true and even if he still loves you (which is, to be honest, unlikely), this man has made a decision not to get back together with you. All of these are clear signs he does not love you anymore, and that is something you’ll have to accept sooner or later.
He makes all the decisions
When there is a need to make an important decision, he will do all the work without even asking for your opinion. It seems like you are not smart enough to decide about the big things and that he is more capable than you.
It is more than clear that this guy doesn’t see you as an equal partner in crime and that he treats you as if you are beneath him in more than one way. He wants to be in complete control over you because that is obviously the only opportunity he gets to feel like a bigger man. If something like this happens to you, you should know that it is a surefire sign of a toxic relationship, and you should definitely escape it as soon as you can because the last thing you need is someone putting you down and not respecting your opinion. If you stay in that kind of an environment, you will just do harm to yourself. On the other hand, if you leave a toxic partner in good time, you will have more chance to be happy with someone else.
He doesn’t make an effort
What is the point of being with someone who puts zero effort into making things work? If you are the only one trying, that is not a relationship anymore because it concerns only you.
When you come to think about it, lately, this has become a one-way -relationship. You’re the only one doing all the work and the only one fighting for your survival while your partner is nothing more than a passive bystander who doesn’t give a rat’s ass about your relationship’s future. In fact, he acts like you leaving him is something that wouldn’t harm him in any way. A man who stops making an effort for the woman he is with and for the relationship probably has some new plans with someone else and has clearly given up on you all together. Maybe he is not happy anymore in your relationship and maybe he doesn’t want to be with you for some reason.
He flirts with other women
When a guy loves you for real, you’ll be the only woman he’ll have eyes for. He can be surrounded by many other better-looking or funnier girls, but he’ll know that you’re one of a kind, and he’ll treat you accordingly.
On the other hand, when a man doesn’t care about a woman, he will want to replace her with a ‘better sample’ and he’ll never see how special she is, no matter what you do. He will do that in ways you can’t even imagine, like flirting with other girls in front of you and feeling zero remorse for that.
If you already had a situation like this, you should seriously talk to your partner and tell him that you won’t let any man treat you like that, including him. If he needs other women around him, it is one of the signs he doesn’t care about you. If a man is ready to humiliate you by comparing you with another female, trust me, he wouldn’t hesitate in physically cheating on you as well. So, the best option would be to just leave him to live his life in the way he wants, and find your own way in the world.
He shows no signs of jealousy
If a man has feelings for you, he can never stand picturing you with another guy, let alone letting you go into someone else’s arms. Even if this man is taking you for granted and doesn’t want to get back together with you at first, the moment he feels endangered and the moment he sees that he might really lose you to another dude, he won’t be able to control his jealousy, and he’ll do everything in his power to get you back. He doesn’t try to prevent you from starting to date again. He is not interested whether you’ve moved on.
He doesn’t have the desire to compete with new men in your life or to chase them away from you. He doesn’t care if you’ve entered a serious relationship or if this is just something you are doing to get even with him. He doesn’t feel threatened by the fact that you are about to replace him, and he even sincerely congratulates you on finding someone new, without the slightest trace of irony or sarcasm.
He has without a doubt rationally accepted your breakup, and he is aware that it’s time for both of you to continue living your lives.