Everyone stop telling me I need to find a boyfriend! 

Maybe I don’t want anyone. Maybe I am so involved in my career, charity work, and paying off a student loan that I don’t have time or energy for anyone.

Why is it that you presume I am unhappy if I am alone? 

Why do you think all of my activities and the extra effort I put into work are because I don’t know what to do with my life anymore because I am single and therefore “aimless”? Alone is exactly the opposite. I have all the friends I could wish for, and each of them represents the world to me. At the same time, I am always open to letting new people come into my life. So no, there is no problem.


Above all, there is also the fact that I have not met anyone with whom I would like to pursue something. There is no boy in my life from this moment that I can look at and say with absolute certainty that he could be the one with whom I would like to have something. And guess what? I’m not going to force it. When that special guy comes into my life, it will happen. Alone is exactly the opposite. I have all the friends I could wish for, and each of them represents the world to me. At the same time, I am always open to letting new people come into my life.

So no, there is no problem.

Above all, there is also the fact that I have not met anyone with whom I would like to pursue something. There is no boy in my life from this moment that I can look at and say with absolute certainty that he could be the one with whom I would like to have something. And guess what? I’m not going to force it. When that special guy comes into my life, it will happen. Here’s the thing: I love who I am right now and I’m living a life I want to live. As far as I can see, having a boyfriend would not improve my life in any way that I want or need absolutely at the moment. I’m young, and there are so many things I want to do and places I want to see for myself before I settle down or bond with someone. And believe me, I have every hope of finding happiness with someone later in life.

It’s not that I never want to have a relationship; it is that at the moment, I openly choose not to do so. And that’s fine. Trust me, I’m more than fine.

I never feel like I’m missing out on anything because I am content with what I’m doing and where I’m going in life. So please, world, take a chill pill and don’t worry about me. And to those who are just nosy, you need to take a few steps back as well. When it happens, I’m sure you’ll all know. Social media is good for things like that. So yeah, I can somewhat appreciate your concern, but please know that it’s truly not needed.

I like my life right now, and let’s leave it at that. I’ll let the universe decide when I’ll meet the one. You should, too. I spend my money on traveling, handbags. I am also involved in volunteering I can cook whatever I want and I don’t need to prepare dinner for anyone. I can go out at midnight and get myself a Mcdonald’s burger if that’s what I want.

I really, truly am satisfied. And if I am okay with your lives and happy about your marriage and kids or relationships, why can’t you be happy for me? 

Please, respect me, my decisions, and my beliefs, and stop thinking and saying that I need to find a boyfriend.

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