Wherever you go and whatever you read, you will come across this popular saying: “Honesty is the best policy.”
In fact, we couldn’t agree more with that. But what about honesty? How to be honest with yourself?
We live in a world where we are bombarded with false perfection. We are offered instant solutions to find true happiness, and we blindly follow the rules without ever questioning anything.
We worry about what other people think of us than what we think of ourselves. Self-deception has become the greatest scourge of the 21st century.
The only way to change something is to accept it in its true form (whether positive or negative). If you are not honest with yourself, your life will become an illusion and self-improvement, something abstract (unattainable).
The only way to be your real self is to accept and see yourself for who you really are and not who other people or the media want you to be.
Choosing to see what you want to see and often ignoring what you don’t want to see is being dishonest with yourself. It’s a recipe for short-term happiness.
Do you want to know the long term happiness recipe? It is hidden within you. The only way to be truly happy is to be honest with yourself!
How to be honest with yourself
1. Recognize both the positive and negative aspects of your life
By observing myself and observing the close people around me, I realized that human beings have this tendency to focus only (or mainly) on the positive things in their life.
Why are we doing this? Is it because we subconsciously run away from problems rather than confront them?
We are well aware that these issues will eventually catch up with us and turn our lives into living hell, but we still choose to focus only on the things we CHOOSE.
And it is high time to change that! It is high time to change that! Instead of focusing only on the positive things in your life, recognize both the positive and the negative.
Don’t run away from your problems, but be honest with yourself and face them like the true warrior that you are!
If you only knew the vast potential that you carry within you, you would never be afraid to question yourself or your beliefs.
In your life, only YOU can make a change.
2. Be honest about your mistakes and failures
Life is full of failures and successes, ups and downs. To live means to make mistakes, to fall, to stand up, to fight and never to give up.
When something good happens to us, we proudly take it upon ourselves and tell others about it. But in the face of life’s challenges, we often blame the universe or others for what happens to us.
Is it because we don’t want to admit that we are just human beings and that we are allowed to make mistakes?
Or are we so worried about what others will think of us if they see the terrible decision we have made in life?
Let me tell you one thing: whatever happens in your life is for a reason. Your mistakes are an inevitable part of your journey called life, and they are there for a reason.
They are here to teach you valuable lessons that will make you more resilient, stronger, and wiser.
So be proud and honest about your mistakes and failures, learn to take responsibility and keep fighting and trying again no matter how many times you fail in life.
This is the only way to find true happiness and be at peace with yourself.
3. Take the time to assess
Do you know what is the best gift that is given to us for free? Time.
We often take time for granted until something terrible happens and motivate us to appreciate seconds, minutes, hours, and days more than ever before.
Don’t wait for it to happen. Instead of taking the time for granted, take the time to think about your day.
Find a good thing or two that happened to you today and be grateful for them. Also think about things that could be improved in the future.
The truth is, people are usually only thankful for the events that change their lives, and they don’t appreciate all the little things that (should) mean so much to us. Celebrate big and small victories.
The only way to become the best version of yourself is to do a daily self-assessment.
It will help you take responsibility for your actions, focus on the things for improvement, and become a master at problem solving.
Assessment means tracking your progress. It’s about being honest with yourself and having a clear vision of how much you can improve today.
4. Recognize and accept all your feelings
From an early age, we are often taught that feeling sad, broken and hurt are bad emotions. When you’re feeling happy, you’re not afraid to share your happiness with the world, right?
But, when you feel bad, you probably don’t feel comfortable showing it in front of others or even acknowledging it to yourself?
Suppressing your emotions is one of the most toxic things you can do to yourself.
No matter what the media, people around you, or anyone else tell you, know one thing: it is OK to feel a wide range of emotions.
It’s okay to be miserable and feel down just because someone you really love hasn’t texted you or feels insecure about certain things.
You don’t need to be happy 24/7. You need to be honest with yourself and allow yourself to feel a wide range of emotions and not see them as negative.
Challenge your feelings, speak out and show the world that you are not afraid to be who you really are! And do you know why? Because you are an amazing human being.