Quick question: do you take responsibility for your actions or do you tend to blame others for events in your own life?
If you enjoy playing the blame game, it means giving up your power to change for the better. Your life is your personal responsibility, and successful people are known to accept full responsibility for their own actions.
This article is all about accepting responsibility and working to become a self-aware and considerate human being.
We all make bad choices on occasion that lead us to do bad things. It doesn’t make you a bad person; it only means that you are faulty, just like the rest of us.
You must learn to control your own behavior to become a better person. Start using the motto “no excuses” and begin to realize that when you make mistakes, it’s on you.
When things go wrong and your hard work is wasted, understanding the importance of personal responsibility is essential.
but what does that mean exactly?
It means accepting and stepping up for the role you play in your own life. It’s about recognizing the good things with the bad.
It means not looking around to point fingers but rather saying, “I made a mistake. And it was nobody’s fault other than mine. ”
Why? Because YOU are in charge of what goes on in your life. Yes there are people around you who influence some of the things that happen but ultimately your life = your own responsibility.
If you do something wrong, apologize. If your bad choice has cost someone anything, either materially or emotionally, acknowledge your role.
You may be wondering what exactly this means to you.
What about personal development? How about replacing your negative personality traits?
How about learning how to lead a fulfilling life not only for appearances on Facebook and LinkedIn, but also in reality?
The best way to get to this place is with self-discipline and self-respect. And with every small step in the right direction, you will start to notice changes in your private and professional life.
Now that you begin to realize that you are the sole creator of your own happiness, you are ready to go further.
Below are the steps I encourage you to take on your journey to personal empowerment. Every positive action will help you regain your self-esteem and take control of your actions.
You need to step up at some point and take responsibility for your wins and losses and today is a great day to do just that. So give it a whirl and make sure it counts!
How to take responsibility for your actions
1. STOP with the blame game
The first step is to accept responsibility. Blaming others and constantly seeking excuses for your difficulties and failures is incredibly easy.
Do you know what is not? Accept that you are the one who caused your own suffering. Accept that your character mistakes have led to an unhappy situation.
Next time you feel like pointing fingers, I want you to stop for a second and think.
Did this person create this negative situation or is your ego preventing you from admitting your mess?
At first, it sucks. Believe me, I have taken this route. I always used to blame others whenever I was unable to do what I was supposed to do or keep a promise.
It is so easy to let go of personal responsibility and live your life playing the victim card.
Only once you realize that personal growth is impossible until you stop at the blame game, can you mature in all the ways that really matter.
Stop looking for a falling guy and look in the mirror Whether you like it or not, you’re going to make some bad choices along the way. What makes a good person is their ability to own them and learn from them.
2. Be true to your word and do what you say
The first thing I want you to understand is that making promises that you know you can’t keep is never a wise decision.
Not only does this cause people to lose confidence in you, it also portrays you as an unreliable person. So from today, I want you to think twice before making a promise that you probably won’t keep.
It’s unfair to the people who rely on you. If you don’t mind something, just say it. No one will think less of you if you sometimes say no.
Whenever you give someone your word, make sure they count. A person is only worth his word.
Be someone your loved ones can count on and I guarantee your life will improve. If you said you would do something, do whatever it takes to make it happen.
Believe it or not, people don’t forget these things. The more trustworthy you are, your relationships will become the stronger.
3. Stop being passive and take action for your improvement
Start being proactive. If you want to change, you’re going to have to do it yourself. All changes start with you.
Being passive or surrounding yourself with negative emotions, anger and resentment will only ruin your self-esteem. Stop focusing on the past and start looking to the future.
Everything that happened in the past is over. There is no reason for you to dwell on something that is gone Take responsibility for your past actions and let them point you to a more proactive future.
Determine what you want to do, what kind of person you want to be, and the best ways to get there.
Above all, do not rush. Follow your pace, take small steps and look ahead. If you want to change for the better, you are going to have to act.
4. Adopt the mantra “NO excuse”
Do you want to progress or keep looking for excuses? Hope you already know the answer to this.
Listen, making excuses will never get you far. Whether you want to be successful in your professional life or in your private life, personal responsibility plays a central role.
No one is going to hire a person who can’t admit their fault. No one will appreciate a colleague who keeps pointing fingers at them.
Most importantly, none of your romantic relationships will ever go the distance until you learn to take your share of the blame.
Now, no more excuses. Before you look at anyone else, take a look inside. It’s scary but so necessary.
5. Stop feeling sorry for yourself
It is not possible to overstate the importance of a positive attitude. Yes, life is going to bring you a fair share of drama and sometimes you will even feel like the world is here for you. But this is not the case.
Bad things happen to all of us. One mess after another may sound like a personal attack, but that’s only the reality. A brutal and harsh reality.
But what no one can take away from you is your attitude. You choose how you let things affect you!
Please don’t be that person. Don’t be someone who constantly feels sorry for themselves and expects mercy. Life is not easy for anyone.
Roll with the punches, get up and persevere. Learn to find the positive in any situation and let go of the victimhood mentality.