Virtuousness connotes goodness, decency, righteousness, morality and purity. It is conforming to standards of what is right and just and to approved codes of behavior. Virtuousness is the condition of being morally pure.
The virtuous woman is a woman of strength; made strong by wisdom, grace and the fear of God. Perhaps, one reason for the rarity of virtuous women is that they are seldom sought.
The Bible says, Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). A woman who loves God righteously by expressing warmth and true affection is a desirable wife. She possesses these characteristics as found in Galatians 5:22,23 which says, But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Here are four reminders of how a woman of virtue should try to act, live, and carry herself, according to her Creator.
1. Remember your value.
Don’t forget the value of a virtuous woman. She is defined by God, and that value can never be overemphasized. Different seasons of life bring about mixed emotions. You might find yourself feeling anxious, nervous, excited, content, frazzled, or even burdened, but remember the circumstances you are facing today don’t define you. God clearly chose you to experience this journey for a reason. God defines you as “you.” I was having a hard day several months ago and was feeling inadequate as a mom, and someone reminded me that I’m the perfect mom for my kids because God chose me for them. You were chosen for such a time as this…whatever your “this” is.
A virtuous woman:
- Contributes to overall goodness and moral integrity.
- Is careful not to tear down or destroy.
- Takes care of her body, is aware of the language she uses, and makes lifestyle choices that are not selfish or shallow.
A virtuous woman does these things, for she knows she is a woman of great worth and beauty. Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”
2. Remember your family.
Don’t forget to attend to your family. A virtuous woman is busy with activities that pertain to the good and well-being of her parents, siblings, and perhaps one day her future husband or children. It took me a few years to learn that while I was grown and starting to live my life as an adult, my parents still needed me to “need” them. Even though I have a husband and family of my own, “children, honor your father and mother” is still in the Bible. I still have the privilege of honoring my parents every day in the way I act, speak, live, and take care of my own family.
A virtuous woman:
- Shows respect.
- Is trustworthy.
- Is a helper.
- Nurtures, teaches, and values discipline.
3. Remember your characteristics.
Don’t forget the characteristics of a virtuous woman, for she is a woman of force and power. Sometimes it’s easy to make our circumstances and daily tasks a priority over our relationship with our Lord. He wants to be the only One, not number one.
A virtuous woman:
- Is mindful of God and honors His ways.
- Is loyal and pure.
- Is kind and selfless.
- Is cheerful instead of being bitter and complaining.
- Is wise and dignified.
- Serves with all her heart, mind, and soul.
- Seeks God’s purpose for her life and follows it.
- Uses her time wisely.
4. Remember your reward.
Don’t forget the reward for being a virtuous woman. A virtuous woman is a woman of real power. Too often, great women go unnoticed and without praise.
This is not the case with the virtuous woman:
- “Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise.” (Proverbs 31:28, MSG)
- Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. (Proverbs 31:31, NLT)
- A virtuous woman will get “personal” recognition for the way she lives her life from her Creator.
Society likes to praise and define us, but God doesn’t use the same dictionary. Maybe you’re the graduate, the girl who just got dumped, the single girl, the girl who just lost someone special, the girl who has straight A’s, the girl who won all the awards at the banquet, the girl who is…you fill in the blank…but you are a child of God, chosen by Him and for Him, not of this world. Above and beyond all the praise, recognition, and joy of this world, heaven is the ultimate reward for God’s people.
We can look around today and see that we desperately need more women who are seeking to be the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 and not Hollywood’s version of a “real woman.” God’s woman, the virtuous woman, is of real substance and lasting quality, and she offers important contributions to herself, her family, and society as a whole. In all you do, make God look good!
May our tribe increase!