A girl is a female human being and is used to describe a female from childhood up to the time that she becomes an adult. A girl is still dependent on her parents for her basic needs such as food, clothing, education, shelter, and to provide her with guidance in everything that she does.

A girl has a body that is not yet fully developed, and although she may already be in her teens and reaches puberty, she is still called a girl until such time when she is already independent and can handle things by herself, in which case she can already be called a women. A woman, on the other hand, is defined as an adult female human being. A girl can be called a woman when she is already able to handle life’s responsibilities towards herself and others. While a girl and a woman are both able to produce offspring, a girl is not yet ready to take on its responsibilities like a woman can.
Girls and women are distinguished by their age as well as their physical, emotional, and psychological maturity. In different parts of the world there are also different ways that one is distinguished from the other.

 Relationships

A woman may or may not desire a romantic pairing, but if she does, she chooses to do so because it amplifies her life. She will not step into a relationship and especially will not go as far as to say “I do” simply to not feel left out. A woman is quite content in her own company and would rather be alone pursuing her passions, strengthening her friendships and building her legacy, than be involved with the wrong person.

A girl is scared to death of being alone. Primarily, this fear is cultivated by those around her and the media she subjects herself to. It is also an indicator that she is not either comfortable with who she is or she hasn’t taken the time to find out who she is. This discovery is very often a journey that requires the sojourner to walk alone. A girl will jump from one relationship to the next with little regard for the quality of the individual she is involved with.

Finances

A woman regardless of her relationship status stands on her own financial footing. A woman does not purport to be too feeble minded to handle money successfully. She understands that successful money management is knowledge than anyone can acquire if they choose to. A woman is disciplined when it comes to spending and saving.

A girl assumes she either will marry someone who will take of her financially or refrains from educating herself on the power of successful financial planning because it appears too daunting, thus sabotaging herself from achieving what she is truly capable of.

Confidence

A woman recognizes that true confidence comes from within. While she recognizes that there will be days of mood swings, she understands the power of her mastering her mind and refuses to be sucked into the debilitating powers of certain emotions. A woman takes the time to get to know herself, to understand her strengths and weaknesses, and realizes she is a work in progress. However, she knows her self-worth and based on her personality will not be subjected to disrespect from a partner or place of work.  A woman recognizes that the only way to gain self-confidence is through experiences, pushing through a wall of comfort from time to time and taking educated risks. A woman has a mind of her own and speaks up for herself and others when necessary.

A girl seeks confidence from external sources – the number of social media followers, a busy date book, approval from peers of her behavior, clothing or life choices. A girl without self-confidence can easily be manipulated into believing what others want her believe about herself.

 Conversation

A woman can hold a conversation with just about anyone, but the difference is that it goes deeper than the surface. A woman is well-read and aware of the world around her. She is comfortable in existential conversations as well as conversations about local politics.

A girl is more comfortable gossiping and complaining, focusing on superficial information that doesn’t deepen the conversation.

Sense of Direction

A woman has goals, aspirations and intentions for her life. Often the rigidity has been lessened as to how exactly everything should play out, however it doesn’t mean they’ve lost sight of their target. It is now more of a concept than a concrete thing. A woman stands on her own to travel her journey, but recognizes the value in relationships (working and personal) and helping those she loves travel successfully toward their dreams as well. A woman is insatiable in her quest for learning and exploring and doesn’t wait for life to entertain her as she recognizes life is ready to dance, she merely has to get on the dance floor and start moving.

A girl doesn’t really know what she wants and due to the ambivalence, she may default to a man and follow his path and help him pursue his dreams while losing herself and her potential in the process.

Standards vs. Expectations

A woman has standards. In other words, a woman holds herself in check when it comes to what she needs in her life to be her best self and is self-actualized enough that she knows what will be detrimental to her potential and overall health (mental and physical).

A girl has expectations. The list of superficial demands that others must have before she will involve herself is something she projects onto them and uses as a barrier to not look beyond what someone may have to offer. In so doing, she is focused on appearances rather than substance.

Do you remember the first time someone told you that you had finally become a woman? It was probably after your first menstrual period. Or, after a weird relative realized that you grew breasts (Sixteen Candles, anyone?) While physical changes do represent growth, I believe that they downplay what it really means to be a woman. Essentially, they make it seem like becoming a woman has nothing to do with the actual woman herself. Instead, once again, all of the credit goes to good ol’ Mother Nature.

 

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